I thought this was another great post from "Real Live Preacher's" blog:
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Friday, June 24, 2005
Nunc Domittis
I've been really busy with moving into our new house and stuff, so I haven't had time to post. However, I do want to post an entry in another blog. Enjoy and thanks for reading.
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Three priests walk into my bistro.
No, this isn't a setup for some awful joke. Three padres sit in my section. They're dressed in civilian clothes but I make them instantly. Former Catholic seminarians can spot priests a mile away. Perhaps it's the clothes; the standard off duty Dockers and conservative button down shirts. Maybe it's the odor of sanctity about them. Perhaps it's because they're always slightly uptight in public. God forbid someone sees them acting out of character; tell a dirty joke or have too much to drink.
"Hello Fathers" I say merrily.
The eldest of the trio smiles broadly. They're busted.
"How did you know?" he says.
"Once a Catholic" I shrug.
"Well you're very perceptive."
"Thanks Father." I wager he's a recovering drunk - uses grape juice instead of wine at Mass. It would make sense. Alcoholism is an occupational hazard for priests.
Come to think of it, it's an occupational hazard for waiters too.
The priests order off the menu. They say please and thank you. They're dream customers.
After I deliver their entrees I stand off to the side and listen in on their conversation. They discuss their jobs in the verbal shorthand priests use when they talk to each other in public. Having been in that subculture I understand every word.
I listen to them talk shop. Not much has changed since I left the seminary in 1990. But then again people and their problems never change.
I walk to the back and pour myself a short espresso. Seeing these guys reminds me about the time I studied for the priesthood. I was eighteen when I joined up - an idealistic firebrand who gloried in debating the finer points of theology and philosophy.
But the priesthood, and ministry in general, is not about that stuff. Not really. It's about dealing with the passions and fears of flesh and blood people in the here and now.
Angels dancing on the head of a pin dissolve into nothingness at the bedside of a dying child.
When looking death in the face things get very real very quickly..
I'm twenty one and doing a stint as a chaplain's aide in a large gritty urban hospital.
Part of my job is to bring Communion to people dying in the AIDS ward. Most of the people wasting away in their beds are uninsured junkies or prostitutes. This is long before antiretroviral therapy. AIDS is poorly understood. Some people still wear masks out of fear of contagion.
Many of the people dying in this place are wracked with guilt. Remember how people used to say AIDS was God's punishment for sinners? That's not an abstract concept for many of these people. A lot of them made disastrous life choices - the consequences of which are now, remorselessly, killing them.
I'm too young and emotionally under equipped to be any real help to these people. I just try and listen. That's hard. Some patients scream at me, driven insane by secondary infections that are rotting their brains. Others are stonily silent, not wanting help from anybody. Occasionally people find peace but that's rare. They cry, they bargain, they pray. All the things people do as they rage against the dying of the light.
Maria is a drug addict. She got AIDS from years of mainlining heroin. Her baby, the result of exchanging sex for drugs, died of AIDS. She has no family or friends. She lies dying alone in a small room overlooking the hospital's air conditioning plant. She hasn't had a bath in days. The sweet sour smell of the unwashed is over powering.
"Hi Maria. I brought you Communion," I whisper.
She looks at me weakly.
"Can I have some water?" she asks. She's near the end.
"Sure."
I look for her water bottle. There is none.
"Where's your water bottle?"
"The nurses won't let me drink water," she says.
Must be something going on with her kidneys. Stupid doctors. The woman's dying.
"Let me go ask the nurse what we can do," I say.
"Thank you."
I walk to the nurse's station. A large black woman sits behind the desk yakking on the phone with what seems to her girlfriend. She looks at me with complete disinterest.
I wait patiently for her to finish. She doesn't.
I wait some more.
"Pardon me, Maria wants some water. Can I give her some?" I interrupt.
"Can't you see I'm on the phone?" the nurse yells.
"Yes but"
"I'll be with you when I'm finished!"
So I wait. The nurse ends her call.
"Now, what do you want?" she says angrily.
"Can I give Maria some water?"
"She's on restricted fluids, you can't."
"How about some ice chips then? I think she has dry mouth." I ask innocently.
The nurse throws her hands up in the air in frustration. "Yeah, go get the girl some ice chips for what good it'll do her. You can get them on the next unit."
"Thank you," I say.
I go over to the neighboring unit and fill a Styrofoam cup with ice. I walk back to Maria's room.
"Maria I got you some ice chips."
No response.
"Maria?"
I walk over to the bed. She's dead.
A wave of incredible anger sweeps over me. All this poor girl wanted was a drink of water. It turned out to be her last request.
Even this small thing was denied her.
I crush the cup in my hands. Ice scatters on the floor. Hot tears run down my face. This girl had nothing - less than nothing. She died thirsty and alone.
It was then my innocence was taken.
I march out to the nurse's station. The nurse is on the phone again. When she sees me a look of annoyance crosses her face. "Now what?"
I slam my hand down on the counter. "MARIA IS DEAD!"
The nurse jumps out of her chair.
"DON'T YOU GIVE A SHIT YOU LAZY B----? SHE'S DEAD" I bellow.
All hell breaks loose. A code is called. Security is called.
The attending shows up. There's a do not resuscitate order. He pronounces Maria dead.
Security guards escort me to the pastoral care office where the Chaplin waits for me.
Instead of yelling at me for losing my temper he sits me down on his couch. He hands me a cup of coffee.
"What happened?" he asks gently.
I tell him everything.
A small smile crosses his face. "That nurse is a lazy b----," he says.
I laugh harshly.
"This is hard work son," he says.
"I had no idea how hard."
We're quiet. I listen to the wall clock tick.
"When you were looking at Maria in that bed were you thinking about yourself?" the priest says suddenly.
The tears come again.
"Yes."
"What were you feeling?"
"That I never want to be alone like that."
"Do you feel that alone?"
A truth I had been hiding from myself came bubbling up from the depths.
"Yes" I start to sob.
The priest gets up and sits next to me. He gently and puts his arm around me. I cry till I feel like I'm going to shake apart.
When I finish the Chaplain says, "You're honest - trying to help people makes you confront the darkness in yourself."
"Yeah,"
"Maybe you should work on feeling alone," he adds.
"Kind of tough when you want to be a priest" I reply.
"Maybe you should think about that."
I've given my heart and soul to being a priest for four years. I'm supposed to go abroad to study theology next year. Now, for the first time, I realize it isn't going to work out.
"God doesn't want you to be unhappy" the priest says.
"Then why drag me here and put me through all this for nothing?" I whisper.
" don't know."
"God's a real a-hole sometimes isn't he?" I say sadly.
"A gigantic a-hole," he says with a smile.
We both laugh.
A few months later I quit.
Now, fifteen years later, I look at the priests sitting in my section. I smile.
I'm no longer that young seminarian from long ago.
I changed. I grew.
I'm still growing.
But I'll never forget the kindness and wisdom that priest afforded me on that terrible day.
I buy my priests some dessert.
"Thank you!" the eldest says as I set down the tiramisu.
"Just trying to shave time off in purgatory Padre," I chuckle.
"Well, none for me," the younger priest says throwing up his hands.
He's about my age. I look him in the eye.
"Faith is tempered in the fires of desire." I say.
He considers that for a moment.
"Well maybe just this once," he says grabbing a spoon.
They polish off dessert and leave a nice tip. The night ends. I go home.
I drive home thinking about the priests, Maria, and my time in seminary. When I get home I pull an old leather book of the shelf.
It's my old breviary from seminary. I still have it.
The binding is loose. The pages are worn. I open it.
The one priestly habit I never lost was to slip important things inside my breviary. The book is stuffed with funeral cards, birth announcements, and love letters; pictures of friends dead and gone.
I pull one picture out. It's a Polaroid of my brother and I when we were teenagers. We look so awkward. He's getting married next month. Soon I'll put a photo of him and his lovely bride in this book - the repository of memories.
I turn the pages till I get to Night Prayer. There's a prayer there called the Nunc Dimittis.
I silently read the words I chanted years ago.
"Lord let your servant go in peace;
your word has been fulfilled;
my own eyes have seen the salvation
which you have prepared in the sight of every people.
A light to reveal you to the nations
and the glory of your people Israel."
I close the book.
Now, years later, God and I sometimes get along.
I'm strangely peaceful.
I turn off the light and go to bed.
---------------
Three priests walk into my bistro.
No, this isn't a setup for some awful joke. Three padres sit in my section. They're dressed in civilian clothes but I make them instantly. Former Catholic seminarians can spot priests a mile away. Perhaps it's the clothes; the standard off duty Dockers and conservative button down shirts. Maybe it's the odor of sanctity about them. Perhaps it's because they're always slightly uptight in public. God forbid someone sees them acting out of character; tell a dirty joke or have too much to drink.
"Hello Fathers" I say merrily.
The eldest of the trio smiles broadly. They're busted.
"How did you know?" he says.
"Once a Catholic" I shrug.
"Well you're very perceptive."
"Thanks Father." I wager he's a recovering drunk - uses grape juice instead of wine at Mass. It would make sense. Alcoholism is an occupational hazard for priests.
Come to think of it, it's an occupational hazard for waiters too.
The priests order off the menu. They say please and thank you. They're dream customers.
After I deliver their entrees I stand off to the side and listen in on their conversation. They discuss their jobs in the verbal shorthand priests use when they talk to each other in public. Having been in that subculture I understand every word.
I listen to them talk shop. Not much has changed since I left the seminary in 1990. But then again people and their problems never change.
I walk to the back and pour myself a short espresso. Seeing these guys reminds me about the time I studied for the priesthood. I was eighteen when I joined up - an idealistic firebrand who gloried in debating the finer points of theology and philosophy.
But the priesthood, and ministry in general, is not about that stuff. Not really. It's about dealing with the passions and fears of flesh and blood people in the here and now.
Angels dancing on the head of a pin dissolve into nothingness at the bedside of a dying child.
When looking death in the face things get very real very quickly..
I'm twenty one and doing a stint as a chaplain's aide in a large gritty urban hospital.
Part of my job is to bring Communion to people dying in the AIDS ward. Most of the people wasting away in their beds are uninsured junkies or prostitutes. This is long before antiretroviral therapy. AIDS is poorly understood. Some people still wear masks out of fear of contagion.
Many of the people dying in this place are wracked with guilt. Remember how people used to say AIDS was God's punishment for sinners? That's not an abstract concept for many of these people. A lot of them made disastrous life choices - the consequences of which are now, remorselessly, killing them.
I'm too young and emotionally under equipped to be any real help to these people. I just try and listen. That's hard. Some patients scream at me, driven insane by secondary infections that are rotting their brains. Others are stonily silent, not wanting help from anybody. Occasionally people find peace but that's rare. They cry, they bargain, they pray. All the things people do as they rage against the dying of the light.
Maria is a drug addict. She got AIDS from years of mainlining heroin. Her baby, the result of exchanging sex for drugs, died of AIDS. She has no family or friends. She lies dying alone in a small room overlooking the hospital's air conditioning plant. She hasn't had a bath in days. The sweet sour smell of the unwashed is over powering.
"Hi Maria. I brought you Communion," I whisper.
She looks at me weakly.
"Can I have some water?" she asks. She's near the end.
"Sure."
I look for her water bottle. There is none.
"Where's your water bottle?"
"The nurses won't let me drink water," she says.
Must be something going on with her kidneys. Stupid doctors. The woman's dying.
"Let me go ask the nurse what we can do," I say.
"Thank you."
I walk to the nurse's station. A large black woman sits behind the desk yakking on the phone with what seems to her girlfriend. She looks at me with complete disinterest.
I wait patiently for her to finish. She doesn't.
I wait some more.
"Pardon me, Maria wants some water. Can I give her some?" I interrupt.
"Can't you see I'm on the phone?" the nurse yells.
"Yes but"
"I'll be with you when I'm finished!"
So I wait. The nurse ends her call.
"Now, what do you want?" she says angrily.
"Can I give Maria some water?"
"She's on restricted fluids, you can't."
"How about some ice chips then? I think she has dry mouth." I ask innocently.
The nurse throws her hands up in the air in frustration. "Yeah, go get the girl some ice chips for what good it'll do her. You can get them on the next unit."
"Thank you," I say.
I go over to the neighboring unit and fill a Styrofoam cup with ice. I walk back to Maria's room.
"Maria I got you some ice chips."
No response.
"Maria?"
I walk over to the bed. She's dead.
A wave of incredible anger sweeps over me. All this poor girl wanted was a drink of water. It turned out to be her last request.
Even this small thing was denied her.
I crush the cup in my hands. Ice scatters on the floor. Hot tears run down my face. This girl had nothing - less than nothing. She died thirsty and alone.
It was then my innocence was taken.
I march out to the nurse's station. The nurse is on the phone again. When she sees me a look of annoyance crosses her face. "Now what?"
I slam my hand down on the counter. "MARIA IS DEAD!"
The nurse jumps out of her chair.
"DON'T YOU GIVE A SHIT YOU LAZY B----? SHE'S DEAD" I bellow.
All hell breaks loose. A code is called. Security is called.
The attending shows up. There's a do not resuscitate order. He pronounces Maria dead.
Security guards escort me to the pastoral care office where the Chaplin waits for me.
Instead of yelling at me for losing my temper he sits me down on his couch. He hands me a cup of coffee.
"What happened?" he asks gently.
I tell him everything.
A small smile crosses his face. "That nurse is a lazy b----," he says.
I laugh harshly.
"This is hard work son," he says.
"I had no idea how hard."
We're quiet. I listen to the wall clock tick.
"When you were looking at Maria in that bed were you thinking about yourself?" the priest says suddenly.
The tears come again.
"Yes."
"What were you feeling?"
"That I never want to be alone like that."
"Do you feel that alone?"
A truth I had been hiding from myself came bubbling up from the depths.
"Yes" I start to sob.
The priest gets up and sits next to me. He gently and puts his arm around me. I cry till I feel like I'm going to shake apart.
When I finish the Chaplain says, "You're honest - trying to help people makes you confront the darkness in yourself."
"Yeah,"
"Maybe you should work on feeling alone," he adds.
"Kind of tough when you want to be a priest" I reply.
"Maybe you should think about that."
I've given my heart and soul to being a priest for four years. I'm supposed to go abroad to study theology next year. Now, for the first time, I realize it isn't going to work out.
"God doesn't want you to be unhappy" the priest says.
"Then why drag me here and put me through all this for nothing?" I whisper.
" don't know."
"God's a real a-hole sometimes isn't he?" I say sadly.
"A gigantic a-hole," he says with a smile.
We both laugh.
A few months later I quit.
Now, fifteen years later, I look at the priests sitting in my section. I smile.
I'm no longer that young seminarian from long ago.
I changed. I grew.
I'm still growing.
But I'll never forget the kindness and wisdom that priest afforded me on that terrible day.
I buy my priests some dessert.
"Thank you!" the eldest says as I set down the tiramisu.
"Just trying to shave time off in purgatory Padre," I chuckle.
"Well, none for me," the younger priest says throwing up his hands.
He's about my age. I look him in the eye.
"Faith is tempered in the fires of desire." I say.
He considers that for a moment.
"Well maybe just this once," he says grabbing a spoon.
They polish off dessert and leave a nice tip. The night ends. I go home.
I drive home thinking about the priests, Maria, and my time in seminary. When I get home I pull an old leather book of the shelf.
It's my old breviary from seminary. I still have it.
The binding is loose. The pages are worn. I open it.
The one priestly habit I never lost was to slip important things inside my breviary. The book is stuffed with funeral cards, birth announcements, and love letters; pictures of friends dead and gone.
I pull one picture out. It's a Polaroid of my brother and I when we were teenagers. We look so awkward. He's getting married next month. Soon I'll put a photo of him and his lovely bride in this book - the repository of memories.
I turn the pages till I get to Night Prayer. There's a prayer there called the Nunc Dimittis.
I silently read the words I chanted years ago.
"Lord let your servant go in peace;
your word has been fulfilled;
my own eyes have seen the salvation
which you have prepared in the sight of every people.
A light to reveal you to the nations
and the glory of your people Israel."
I close the book.
Now, years later, God and I sometimes get along.
I'm strangely peaceful.
I turn off the light and go to bed.
Tuesday, June 07, 2005
Interview With A Vegan
If you don't know what Relevant Magazine is, run and pick one up. It's great stuff, especially if you're an Emergent follower.
Anyway, I thought the interview with Moby this month was insightful and interesting. Although I haven't followed him in awhile, I probably started listening to him before anyone else did. (1991 with his EP "Go")
Here are some quotes I found interesting.
"As a Christian, I feel very shut out from a lot of contemporary Christianity...my understanding in what it means to be a Christian is to, in our own subjective way, recognize Christ as being God, and recognize our shortcomings and our failings, and try and live according to the teachings of Christ as best we can. And what I find so strange as I look at the behavior of so many Christians, and I don't see any aspect of the teachings of Christ represented there."
"The thing that has always boggled my mind is when someone feels confident that they're saved. I want to say to them, "Didn't you read?" The Pharisees and the Sadducees at the front of the temple who were so self-satisfied, and then the tax collector in the back of the temple crying and beating his breast - who does Christ say goes home justified? The tax collector. So, it's just my perspective that you can't be a follower of Christ and be smug and self-satisfied. You can never be a follower of Christ and think you are doing a great job. We're supposed to be humble and work out our salvation with fear and trembling, not walk around and be arrogant, judgmental, smug people."
"My friends say, "Well, you know with Janet Jackson and the Super Bowl, I think people are more offended with the direction our culture has taken." And I'm like, "Well, why not be offended by the Super Bowl? Why not be offended by the crass commercialism - that buying a new car is going to provide you with happiness and salvation? Why not be offended by the notion that grown men who beat the s--- out of each other get paid $15 million a year, while schoolteachers in the inner city get paid $24,000 a year? That's offensive. If we're going to start talking about things that are offensive, a bare breast is at the bottom of the list."
I love it when they finally get around to talking about his new CD. He says:
"Theology is a lot more interesting. I mean, I love music, and I love making music and I love making records, and I've devoted my life to being a musician. But music, in and of itself, is not the most interesting thing to talk about. To talk about my new record could all be summed up in: I made this record, and I like it, and I think some of the songsare kind of frivolous and some of the songs are very personal, and I hope that other people like it. There really isn't that much more to say about it."
There's more, but you really should just buy the magazine.
Anyway, I thought the interview with Moby this month was insightful and interesting. Although I haven't followed him in awhile, I probably started listening to him before anyone else did. (1991 with his EP "Go")
Here are some quotes I found interesting.
"As a Christian, I feel very shut out from a lot of contemporary Christianity...my understanding in what it means to be a Christian is to, in our own subjective way, recognize Christ as being God, and recognize our shortcomings and our failings, and try and live according to the teachings of Christ as best we can. And what I find so strange as I look at the behavior of so many Christians, and I don't see any aspect of the teachings of Christ represented there."
"The thing that has always boggled my mind is when someone feels confident that they're saved. I want to say to them, "Didn't you read?" The Pharisees and the Sadducees at the front of the temple who were so self-satisfied, and then the tax collector in the back of the temple crying and beating his breast - who does Christ say goes home justified? The tax collector. So, it's just my perspective that you can't be a follower of Christ and be smug and self-satisfied. You can never be a follower of Christ and think you are doing a great job. We're supposed to be humble and work out our salvation with fear and trembling, not walk around and be arrogant, judgmental, smug people."
"My friends say, "Well, you know with Janet Jackson and the Super Bowl, I think people are more offended with the direction our culture has taken." And I'm like, "Well, why not be offended by the Super Bowl? Why not be offended by the crass commercialism - that buying a new car is going to provide you with happiness and salvation? Why not be offended by the notion that grown men who beat the s--- out of each other get paid $15 million a year, while schoolteachers in the inner city get paid $24,000 a year? That's offensive. If we're going to start talking about things that are offensive, a bare breast is at the bottom of the list."
I love it when they finally get around to talking about his new CD. He says:
"Theology is a lot more interesting. I mean, I love music, and I love making music and I love making records, and I've devoted my life to being a musician. But music, in and of itself, is not the most interesting thing to talk about. To talk about my new record could all be summed up in: I made this record, and I like it, and I think some of the songsare kind of frivolous and some of the songs are very personal, and I hope that other people like it. There really isn't that much more to say about it."
There's more, but you really should just buy the magazine.
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